Own Your Look

Eilieen, Me, Lee & Meg at the Red Tie Gala - shades of black...Last night I attended the Red Tie Gala - a biennial event benefitting the Little Sisters of the Poor in San Francisco. Always held at Neiman Marcus on Union Square and always a very fun time, this year's party not only featured fun bands, delicous tastes and libation, but also some great style.

I know a lot of people get down on San Francisco being an "a-stylish" city, but as a native, I have to say that the people who make this kind of proclamation haven't spent enough time here to see the essence of our easy-going, unusual brand of fashionable. (Are you listening Susie Bubble?) True, even I am over girls with bare legs and sandals at formal events in November, but overall, last night brought out the festive, elegant, and quirky.

Gorgeous South African dress at the Red Tie GalaFormal attire used to be so strictly outlined and full of rules, but in our time most anything goes (for better or worse.) Despite the loosening of the sartorial rules, there is one thing that remains: ethnic dress is always appropriate for formal attire. While our "Western" formal dress of tuxedos and cocktail dresses has spread through most countries, a "national costume" is still traditionally appropriate for formal events. So, if you have a fabulous kimono, sari, dirndl, or pearly queen costume, don't hide it away for the consulate Christmas party, wear it!

Last night I met this amazing designer from South Africa who had made her own ensemble, modified from the traditional dress of South Africa. She had also made the ensembles of two friends who were at the party with her - all three were a delightful group of necklaces, head-wraps and unusual textiles...

Morgan rocks her grandmother's Thea PorterThen I met Morgan... I was a bit star-struck at her gorgeous full-length gown. I knew it was vintage of some kind, but was too afraid to ask. Luckily, when in the queue at the ladies' room she explained that it was her grandmother's, a vintage Thea Porter gown from 1968. That was all I needed to hear - I asked for a picture (a little embarrassing when in line for a commode,) but she was very gracious. She said the label is still in tact reading "Thea Porter 1968 - Neiman Marcus". She also told me of how she chose to wear it: "I put it on, and I was like, whoa! But then I took a breath and told myself 'okay, you have to own this...' "

And that, my friends, is really the whole point. Wether you're in your favorite LBD, an ethnic costume, or some fabulous piece of inherited vintage, straighten your shoulders and walk out the door with perfect confidence. Own your look and you won't disappoint.

Comments

[WendyB]

I'm in awe of the Thea dress.

[kpriss]

Now that's an amazing idea! Taking out your very own creation to an event! Must be brave (and good designer too! ;) )

Got you in my weekly linkage! ;)